Congratulations! You made it through the wonders of childhood and are now standing at the threshold of adulthood. Welcome.
This is the part where you get to make your own decisions; like, eating chocolate cake for dinner…just because you can.
The beginning of your new journey is going to be messy (like a one-year old eating chocolate cake for the first time.) If it’s not messy, you’re not doing it right. Make mistakes. It’s through failure that we gain opportunities to learn, grow and make it better. Embrace it.
There will be times when you feel lost and you don’t know what to do. It’s ok. Don’t forget to breathe. (Here’s a secret: people pretend, but no one really has it all figured out – the older you get, the more you will realize this is true.) All we can do is our best with what has been given to us in this moment.
When you do feel lost, remember there is a solution to every problem. Seek advice from a few people you trust – someone who has your best interest at heart, someone with credibility and experience in the area you are needing help. Consider their perspective but remember that your choices are ultimately up to you. The most important voice is the one inside you. Trust it.
People will come and go, in and out of your life but guess what – you will always be there. Stay true to yourself. Be who you are. Learn to enjoy your own company. Don’t be afraid to be different. The movers and shakers of this world have all had one thing in common – they weren’t afraid to stand out from the crowd. Be who you were created to be. Don’t just exist. Figure out what that means for you.
Follow your dreams. As you do this; some people will be supportive, most won’t care, others will have very strong opinions rooted in a place of fear. Don’t take it personally. Sometimes you may have to go it alone. Always always always follow your own convictions. You are the author of your story.
Travel. Do it often and by any means necessary. Even if it’s just to a different part of town. Get out of your comfort zone. Stretch. Talk to people who are different. Collect experiences. Try new things. You’ll understand why as you do this. The world can be scary but it’s also full of wonderful gifts. Don’t miss out because you are afraid. The best parts of life are born when you feel the most scared. Just remember to be smart, trust your intuition and be safe!
As you move along in your journey, remember to be kind and patient with others and with yourself. Don’t assume too much. Listening to understand is a powerful tool. Ask a lot of questions. Be open to others’ perspectives because everyone is living in their own reality based on their own background and experiences.
Even these words of wisdom are all based in my own experiences and lessons I’ve learned. Perhaps I don’t even know what I’m talking about. Now that you are an adult, you get to decide if you’ll take this or leave it. You will have your own lessons to learn.
I want you to know you are a capable, beautiful human being and I am very proud of you. I wish only the best for you in your new chapter. Go forth in love and most importantly…enjoy your cake.
Your Big Sister